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Work you can do on your own

These publications extend the work beyond the session. Each one takes a single part of relational life — conversation, compatibility, intimacy — and gives you a structure for working through it on your own, or with the person it concerns.

These are not motivational tools. They are structured resources.

Three resources

The publications

Instant access after checkout. Yours to keep.

The Questions That Open Your Heart

£15 · Couples question manual

A structured question manual for partners. It supports real conversation, emotional clarity and relational understanding at any stage — a new relationship or a long bond that has gone quiet.

También disponible en español.

Buy · £15

The Compatibility Matrix

£7.77 · Workbook

A workbook for deciding what you actually want in a partner, across twelve areas of life — from personality and psychology to finances, habits and sexuality. Built for working it out before chemistry decides for you.

Buy · £7.77

The RDBSMA System

£7.77 · Six-part framework

A six-part conversation to have before intimacy, not after it: relationship status, desires, boundaries, sexual status, meaning and aftercare. It gives you the words for the things most people hope will be understood without saying them.

Buy · £7.77

Which one is for you?

You're together, and the conversation has gone flat The Questions That Open Your Heart. Sit down with it and you'll have a conversation you would not otherwise have had.
You're deciding whether this is the one The Compatibility Matrix. For working out what you actually need from a partnership, before chemistry makes the decision for you.
Something has gone quiet in the bedroom The RDBSMA System. It gives you six things to say before intimacy rather than after it — and sexual disconnection is rarely about libido, so having the words matters more than having the desire.
You've read one and want to go further These are a starting point, not a substitute for the work. When you want someone in the room with you, book a session.

Be clear on what you're buying

What they are
  • Structured, practical and built to be worked through
  • Drawn from the same clinical work, written to be used without me
  • Written to be used more than once
  • Yours to keep, with instant access
What they are not
  • Motivational reading
  • A replacement for therapy or mediation
  • Crisis support
  • Quick fixes, of any kind
Instant accessAvailable as soon as you check out. Nothing to wait for.
Yours to keepNo subscription, no renewal, no upsell afterwards.
English and SpanishThe couples manual is published in both languages.
Beyond the page

A book can start the thinking. It cannot ask you the second question.

If you work through one of these and find it opens something you would rather not handle on your own, that is usually the right moment for a session.