Dr Massimo Stocchi-Fontana
Psychologist Ā· Sexologist Ā· MediatorI work with capable adults who look composed, successful and in control, and who privately feel misaligned, exhausted, relationally strained or disconnected from themselves.
I do not believe in fixing people. Most suffering comes from fragmentation, and most people are capable of far more psychological responsibility than they realise.
I have spent over two decades in psychology and sexology, not only studying people but watching how we build identities, relationships and entire lives around stories that stopped being true some time ago.
My work sits where existential psychotherapy, cognitive therapies and systemic thinking meet. It is grounded in clinical rigour and unafraid of a difficult truth.
That means I ask direct questions, I tell you what I see, and I expect you to do something with it. It is not about comfort. It is about alignment between who you are and how you actually live.
Most problems are not what they appear to be
- Burnout is rarely just exhaustion
- Sexual disconnection is rarely just libido
- Relationship breakdown is rarely just communication
When something fractures in one part of a life, it reverberates across the whole system. Treat the symptom and you get a short improvement. Treat the structure and it holds.
The Dharmaplicity Six Domains Model
I do not work in fragments. This is how I keep a whole life in view, rather than only the part that hurts most this week.
When one collapses, the others compensate. We look at structure, we look at patterns, and we look at what you avoid.
Central, not an awkward add-on
Sexual self-image shapes confidence, attachment, power and how fully you let yourself be known. Leaving it out leaves a hole in the middle of the work.
My background in psychology and sexology means we can look at it without shame and without avoidance. Some people want to start there. Others never raise it, and that is fine. What I will not do is treat it as optional, because it rarely behaves that way.
I also mediate, and I train the people who do
I work as a WTA mediator with the FMA, handling family, civil and community mediation between Spain and the UK, in English and Spanish.
It sits inside the same practice and draws on the same training: the same attention to what people are really arguing about, held inside a neutral, structured process. I also run CPD training for mediators and lawyers on what happens in the practitioner while that process is running.
Three things I will not compromise on
Structural alignment
Psychological, relational and sexual patterns are interconnected. Lasting change requires examining the structure rather than treating isolated symptoms.
Sexuality treated seriously
Sexual self-image shapes confidence, attachment and power. It is addressed with psychological seriousness and maturity, not avoidance and not sensationalism.
Responsibility over dependency
The work should strengthen your independence, not create reliance. The aim is clarity, regulation and self-leadership, so you think clearly and act decisively without me.
Where the work is grounded
This work is not about fixing you. It is about aligning you.
Whether we work together briefly or over a longer period, the aim is the same: to restore internal structure, so your external life stops feeling like a performance.