Interviews, podcasts and speaking
I contribute to podcasts, interviews and broadcast on relational psychology, attachment, performance pressure, sexual self-image and existential alignment.
Conversations are structured and psychologically grounded, and oriented toward clarity rather than sensationalism.
What I'm usually asked about
For journalists and producers
Practical details, so you don't have to ask.
Podcast appearances
Conversations recorded with podcast hosts for general audiences.
These are podcast conversations, not clinical teaching. Several discuss sex explicitly, and some touch on trauma. Episode titles and framing are the hosts' own.
Relationships, attachment and family
Patterns, affairs, and what people inherit from the family they grew up in.
Bridging the gap in your relationship
What sits underneath disconnection in a long relationship, and why date nights rarely reach it.
Infidelity: the psychology of the other woman
How affairs begin, what keeps someone inside one, and the difference between attention and intention.
I'm in a happy relationship, so why am I thinking about someone else?
Attraction that arrives inside a good relationship, and what it usually signals rather than what people fear it means.
Healing from toxic, damaging or narcissistic parenting
What a difficult parent leaves behind, what can be repaired in adulthood, and what has to be accepted instead.
Is seduction always manipulative?
Where influence ends and manipulation begins, and why that line matters more than it first sounds.
Desire, intimacy and the body
Clinical sexology for a general audience. Explicit in places.
Using the sexual flow state to find love
Dating from a different starting point than the apps encourage, and what changes when you stop auditioning.
How men can understand and align with her pleasure cycle
The menstrual cycle as relational information rather than something to be survived.
The RDBSMA conversation
Relationship status, desire, boundaries, sexual health, meaning and aftercare. The six things worth establishing beforehand rather than afterwards.
Spontaneous or responsive desire?
What looks like mismatched libido is often mismatched style. How to tell the difference and how to name it.
High, low and mismatched libidos
The range of sex drive, orgasm used as escape, and the causes sitting underneath both ends of the scale.
Crying after sex: is it normal?
Post-coital tears as physical release, as emotional release, and when they point at something older.
Sex happens in our bodies, so why are we in our heads?
Spectatoring, performance anxiety and body image, and how people get back into the body they are in.
Arousal, breath and edging
How breath and arousal interact, and a frank discussion of the physical risks in practices people rarely ask about safely.
When casual sex doesn't feel casual
Why it is straightforward for some people and destabilising for others, and what attachment has to do with the difference.
We're having sex, not going to the circus
Expectation, performance, and the gap between what sex is sold as and what it is for.
Bodies, shame and the stories we inherit
Where the shame attached to particular bodies comes from, and who it serves.
How to seduce a man: a male sexologist's perspective
What actually registers, described from the other side of it.
Interviews, panels and speaking engagements
If you're working on something and think I'd be useful, tell me what it is and when you need it.