Men Are Porous: How Feminine Energy Shapes Evolved Masculinity
Apr 15, 2025
Introduction
Men are porous.
One of my extraordinary clients made this simple yet profound observation, and I doubt he realised just how impactful his words were. The idea that men absorb and are deeply influenced by the feminine holds significant implications for our growth, relationships, and evolution.
In my view, a man’s life is inherently shaped by the inspiration drawn from the feminine. Sometimes, that inspiration challenges us—pushing us to face our insecurities and fears. Yet without these challenges, we might never learn the true depth of love or how to be genuinely present in our relationships. This article explores the power of feminine influence in a man’s journey toward conscious masculinity, highlighting why we should harness this energy for creation rather than fear it.
Why Men Need Feminine Energy
Embracing the Feminine for Growth
As men, our evolution hinges on readiness—often triggered by a personal awakening or life-changing event. Instead of waiting defensively for something external to force us into awareness, we can take an active role in our growth. The feminine, whether in a partner or broader relationships, can be a catalyst that propels us to become the best versions of ourselves.
The Inspiration Factor
From legendary writers like Dale Carnegie and David Deida to everyday men striving for improvement, many have recognised the power of feminine energy as fuel for creativity and purpose. By consciously channeling sexual or emotional energy into projects or goals, we shift from a cycle of mere consumption to one of creation. In doing so, we pay homage to the positive influence of the feminine while forging our unique path of masculine growth.
Understanding Porosity in Relationships
Positive and Toxic Influences
The statement “men are porous” resonates with me on multiple levels. It suggests we can be shaped by both the evolved and toxic dimensions of our partner’s femininity. Recognising this capacity for influence is the first step toward using it constructively. We want our partners to understand the power they hold in shaping our masculinity. And while our energy also profoundly affects them, that’s a topic for another day.
When Feminine Energy Feels Like Kryptonite
If a partner exists in a toxic state, it can crush our spirit—like Superman’s kryptonite. In those moments, all we feel is the need to make it stop. Training ourselves to remain compassionate and understanding may help us endure for a while, but when we hit our threshold, we risk explosive conflict. The same is true in reverse when the masculine energy becomes toxic toward the feminine.
Giving Power Without Becoming Weak
Moving Beyond Fear
A lot of men are terrified to admit that our partners can mould and manipulate us. We resist acknowledging this vulnerability because we confuse porosity with weakness. True weakness is something else entirely—aligned with the unevolved aspects of both men and women. Instead, seeing ourselves as porous means we’re inviting our partner to walk alongside us in mutual growth.
A Mutual Evolution
When both partners realise their power to elevate—or hinder—each other, they can consciously choose to nurture the positive. We become co-creators of a relationship that thrives on honest communication and shared respect. If we stay naive to these truths, we remain trapped in a cycle of repeated harm, never breaking free from society’s outdated mould of masculinity.
Breaking the Mould: The Call to Consciousness
Whether we like it or not, we all absorb the energy around us. The question is, do we do so consciously or unconsciously? By actively deciding to be an evolved man, you open yourself to depth in communication and authentic presence. You reject the “kryptonic” suffering that comes from ignoring these truths.
Key Takeaways
- Recognise your porosity: Understand you’re influenced by the feminine—both positively and negatively.
- Seek conscious growth: Don’t wait for a crisis; choose to evolve by embracing your partner’s influence.
- Use feminine energy creatively: Channel sexual and emotional energy into purposeful action.
- Break free from societal molds: Redefine masculinity in a way that encourages depth, compassion, and connection.
Conclusion
Men are porous, and that’s not a flaw—it’s an opportunity. By acknowledging how the feminine can shape our journey, we become more capable of profound love, creativity, and presence. The next step is up to us: will we allow life to force change upon us, or will we consciously step into our evolution as men?
Vaya Con Dios
Ultimately, recognising your own porosity ushers in a more compassionate, balanced, and evolved masculinity. Embrace it—your growth, your partner’s growth, and the world around you will all benefit.
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